sinslaidbare's Diaryland Diary

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Shocking news.

The Asker: My friend just told me he's gay. I'm kinda skeeved out by the whole thing. I don't really want to stop being friends with him, but at the same time, I keep thinking that he's looking at me in THAT way. What am I supposed to do?

She says: So you're afraid that your friend wants to convert your manly ass to the other side, huh? That's probably not the case here. I think that your friend just wanted to let you know about himself. You know, so when you double date, you won't be so shocked when his date is named "Mike" and not "Michelle".

You're going to have to sit down and talk with your friend. Let him know that while you want to be supportive, the news is a bit shocking.
Explain your point of view, but also let your friend explain his. I'm sure that he will appreciate your candor, and a lot of potential issues will be cleared up.

As for him looking at you in THAT way, maybe he is (less likely) and maybe he's not (more likely). If he is though, there's nothing that says that you have to reciprocate his affections. Why not just deal with the fact that he finds you attractive? Hey, there are worse things in life than being found cute, aren't there?

He says: We�re a little too well-traveled to be all that shocked at the choices people make about which kind of genitals they prefer to lick. And I have to agree with Zo�, odds are that someone telling you their orientation isn�t doing so as part of a scheme to draft you to the other team. Have you ever picked up a girl by saying �You know, um..., I�m straight?�

Exactly.

So what�s left to be worried about? One more gay man means one less person to compete with when you�re out at the bars, doesn�t it? But what if they are trying to let you know they�re attracted to you? If you�re not into the idea, let them know. Boys and girls the world over deal with this kind of thing all the time. Sometimes it does ruin friendships when feelings are not reciprocal, but almost always because the one with desires can�t let it go.

If you are worried that your friend is going to try and make a move on you after you�ve made your position clear: STOP HANGING OUT WITH PEOPLE YOU THINK COULD BE RAPISTS. Seriously. Why would you hang out with someone you thought was capable of sexual assault? If they�re really your friend, you should know them well enough to trust that they�ll listen when you say no.

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7:23 p.m. - 2006-07-15

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